Thoughts on Mother’s Day

There are many good reasons to celebrate Mother’s Day—it can be a day to honor your own mother. One day out of the entire year to thank, honor and celebrate all the sacrifices women make for their families. It should be about love and families.

And there are a lot of good reasons that many do not like Mother's Day too—for me, Mother’s Day is hard because it is a day-long reminder that my husband and I have been struggling from infertility for over 4.5 years.  There are many others who share my sorrow today.  Just google infertility blogs, news, and websites to find many beautiful posts, articles, poems, advice and other information reminding society not to forget about the infertile on Mother's Day.

But it is not just childless infertile women who find mother’s day to be bitterly sad. What about all these other women who dread Mother’s Day?

• Anyone who has lost his or her mother? 
• Those who have lost a child? 
• Those who have not yet found the right partner to start their family with? 
• Those who are estranged from, or have difficult relationships with, their mothers or their children? 
• Those who have disabled children, who cannot make those sweet homemade cards, say “I love you,” or give loving hugs and kisses to their mommy? 
• Those women who struggled for years to create their families and even once they had children, still cannot forget the pain that this particular day used to make them feel. 

This day can be difficult for many women, and men too. To all of you who are struggling today, I want to tell you it is okay not to celebrate. It is okay to take care of yourself today. It is okay to treat today like any other day. It is also okay if you do want to celebrate, whether it be your mother, your children, your memories, or your own strength. Whatever you need to do today, it is okay. And you will be okay too. This day shall pass soon enough and everything will be okay tomorrow.